My partner is under a great deal of pressure a work and being reated very unfairly but she won' do anything to make her life easier she won't go and get her ID and she's drinking a scary amount and she smokes, I love her and feel I need to stay with her but I can' watch her destroy herself because she won't let go of past hurts and trauma and won't go back to councilling. I need enlightenment and srenght and she desperatly needs peace and o forgive herself and ohers.