ten years ago my husband who has passed decided to take up with an old girl friend from his teens years. she became a trouble maker of confusion for my three grown kids. like she turned one against then other. also she joined my brothers and sister family for cook outs and get family functions which I wasn't invited or my daughter cause she wouldn't choose her over me. my husband and I divorced 10 yrs after 42 yrs with each other. he had dementia and parkinsons so he did not protect himself from her demands. now that he is gone everything he had went to my oldest son. there are memories items and there is a conflicted with my other son about their dads belongings. my daughter don't care one way or the other. instead of my family coming together it is farther apart. I stay out of it because I was considered the bad person due to the gossip of the girl friend. she has still not gone away. my one son is distance from me I think because he feels guilty. my grown children are my pride and joy. they are mine and Gods. I am in the middle not knowing what to do. I feel good about myself and have come through a lot getting on my feet. I need prayers to guide me on how to handle this.