I have a friend whom is overseas, he is a Chief Engineer on a ship that brings crude oil and goods to other countries. He has been there now for 8 months. In December he will be retiring. The story is his wife passed away 5 years ago of breast cancer and he was left behind with his then 7 year old daughter. When he was 7 his parents were killed in a plane crash. He is 58 years old and he is still grieving for wife. What'd hard is I have fallen for him, we started talking on the phone last week and found we really enjoyed talking with each other, especially after we've been texting each other for the last 3 months. I caught on that he gets drunk every night and for the first time last night he was crying and said he misses his wife so much. I started crying, I knew he still needed to grieve over her, but not to the extent that he does. I believe he's an alcoholic and I could never go down that road. He says he wants me to be in his life when he retires. I want to but I can't. The thing is he's a really good man, he is very likeable. I plan to tell him tonight how hard this is for me, because of my past. I don't want him to want me to take his wife's place and I'm at a huge loss. He's also is looking for someone to be with Wendy, be her mother. That part doesn't bother me. But I m extremely sad over this. Would you please pray for my friend and myself. I have a background of abandonment, I study and am learning to get rid of the emotions that accompany abandonment. However they have been coming back. I really want to help him grieve over his wife, I didn't know he loved her that much,
to still be grieving as strongly as he is. Please ask God to help us figure out what is best for the both of us. Thank You all so very much and May All of Your Prayers Be Answered.
God Bless