Know that you are not alone, cause my husband is also. He changed completely since his triple bypass open heart surgery last june, and started a long distance relationship with a married friend of his from California, that he knew as a young kid, and now stating that he no longer loves me and devotes all his time and most of what engery he has, to her, listening to everything SHE tells him and wants him to do, for her. So as if I am not even here. But thing is, I still am. I still take care of him, when he falls I am the one picking him up off the floor, I am the one making sure he eats, and I cook and keep the house, for him as well, I make sure all of his medical needs are met and take him to all his medical appointments. Do I still love him?? Yes, cause I am his wife, and to leave him would be breaking God's law, til death do you part. you don;t just leave when it gets tough. Instead, I am getting closer to God, While he is standing in the dark. His choice, not mine. So I get it. Prayer for you both.