Nothing is impossible with God. I had the same situation like yours Berna. It seems difficult right now to deal with these things and only divine intervention can solve the ongoing issue. This will take some time. Take your time and be courageous. This situation will test your faith in the Lord. Focus on growing with the Lord and as He changes your character, everything will follow. Also, do not let this situation affect your relationship with your eldest son. As you pray for them, you eldest will see your efforts and will be able to discern things on his own. Do not stop reaching out to him even if he’s being difficult most of the time. This situation is not forever trust God can do miracles. If He can raise someone from the dead and move mountains then He can change your situation to. Wait in the Lord

2 Timothy 3:12: “In fact, everyone who wants to live a godly life in Christ Jesus will be persecuted.” Isaiah 41:10: “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

All of us Christians will experience persecution but do not be afraid, we will never be forsaken. If God can move mountains and was able to divide the sea it is not impossible for Him to touch your neighbor's heart. Always pray for protection , healing and change of heart. Pray for their blessings so their focus will be on the blessings and not you. God is good all the time.